In this post I will be mostly talking about gay men and their attraction to each other. Boys are not just simply "born that way". Being gay is not a genetic disorder or predisposition. It is usually caused by a number of factors as the boy grows up. A main factor is the father. A boy is more likely to be gay if:
1) If the father is distant, uncaring or never even there to begin with.
2) If the mother wears the pants in the family.
3) The boy gets picked on because the father has no great influence as to how the boy should act.
The boy is searching for acceptance from his own gender and tries to find it through peers. If the peers are not accepting it makes it even worse, so when the boy finally does find another boy who accepts him he mistakes acceptance for a different kind of feeling. He begins to have sexual desires towards other boys and then it just grows from there. There are other factors that play into it as well but having an unloving and cold father figure is a main contributor.
I encourage you to play with your son. Get to know him personally and try to understand him. Play games with him and tell him that you're proud of him. Let him know he has someone to turn to in any time of need. Be his teacher and guider through this rope course of life, but most importantly tell him you love him.
Very well said. As I studied this section in my class, I found it interesting that boys who choose to become gay also usually have a history with pornography. That pornography is so evil!
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